I have always been quirky. My friends got me. But many people didn't. I remember one friend saying people either loved me or hated me. I didn't like that. I wanted everyone to love me. We'll come back to that point later. Many people thought I was weird. But they said it with a smile as if there was something that amused them about my wierdness. It took me 20 years to figure out why that was. As you get older you start to appreciate weirdness as uniqueness and authenticity[...]
There is a dangerous spiritual belief that there are no victims in this world. That we choose our suffering before we incarnate in order to learn the lessons we need to learn. I am not disputing what our souls may or may not decide before we are born. What I AM warning of is the danger of using the shadow side of this belief to stay in situations that ultimately are causing us harm. Read my past article on the dangers of spiritual new age positive thinking here. I used to buy into[...]
If you are doing something that you really love, but you are feeling drained, exhausted and burnt out, then read this newsletter to the end.Mark Twain famously said: "When you do what you love you´ll never have to work a day in your life".Well, Mark. I have a bone to pick with you! Why is it that so many of us are doing what we love but feeling COMPLETELY overwhelmed and like we can't make ends meet?I'm pretty sure that if Mark Twain were alive to answer my question, his reply would soun[...]
If you have ever felt terrible in your body but have been unable to pinpoint symptoms or feelings, this article is for you. In 2019 I was diagnosed with underachieve thyroid and Hashimoto’s Autoimmune disease. Before that I had been feeling extremely tired for a while. Eventually it got so bad that I couldn't stay a full day at work. I went to the doctors thinking I would need to take some iron supplements. I didn't realise that this tiredness was a key symptom of Underactive T[...]
If you are considering moving from the city to the countryside but are worried about making the change, this newsletter is for you.My ultimate desire in life is for peace.Peace inside and peace outside.The truth is that living in Barcelona has not been conducive to either of those things. You can read about my difficult start to Barcelona hereLast week, after 10 years of living in the city, I finally moved away for good.THE EFFECT OF CITY LIVINGI started getting ill the year I moved to B[...]
If you are the kind of person that: swallows your anger instead of expressing it pretends everything is OK when it isn't says YES when you mean NO believes you are not an angry person feels uncomfortable around expressions of anger Then you may be at risk of developing autoimmune disease. Here's why. MY STORY As a child, when unkindness was directed my way in an angry tone, I learnt to associate anger with being mean. When I was shouted at, I learnt to associate[...]
Following someone else's dream has consequences. My mum knows this better than anyone. Her name is Nicola. And this her story of following someone else's dream. MY MUM’S STORY My mum never considered herself a writer. She started journalling at age 8 after receiving a diary from her parents. It was a natural thing to so since her father also kept a diary. As a child she always wanted to be a forester. But she never followed her childhood passion because her fa[...]
Every one is talking about PASSION nowadays. It’s the new buzzword. It can be tiring, especially if your friends are discovering their passions left right and centre and you have still not tapped into yours. It can leave you feeling left out of the loop. Lost and unsure. Like you KNOW you should be headed somewhere but you're uncertain of where it is. You even doubt that you have a passion. Perhaps you use this line of thinking to justify your staying in a job that doesn´t[...]
My spiritual awakening was a funny thing. I started to reject all the parts of me that I had spent my life cultivating: - my discipline -my productivity -my daily routine -my following a schedule -my authentic expression I only wanted to be in my "feminine energy" and didn’t want anything to do with all the masculine part that brings direction, purpose and drive. In my desire to "be in flow" I lost all sense of structure. I justified this with spiritual jargon such a[...]
Have you ever struggled when returning to your "reality" after an incredible experience? Whether it be a holiday, retreat or ceremony - if you have felt anxious or depressed after returning to normal life, then this article is for you. That low you get after a wonderful experience is a horrible feeling and can knock you down for days. Returning home you feel: -a lack of motivation -loss of pleasure in doing things you used to enjoy -aches and pains in the body -tiredness[...]
