I was 33 when I had my midlife crisis. I feel grateful that it came before marriage and kids. But it was tough. Everything around me crumbled within a year. ❌My relationship ❌My health ❌My job ❌My finances I was hemorraging money from my failed centre, Anahata. I felt the energy being sucked out of my solar plexus. I felt like I was dying. I was recovering from Narcissistic abuse and had started to doubt my own version of reality. On top of that, I had a[...]
When I was a primary teacher, I desperately wanted to be a leader. I wanted to speak and have every child in the room listening to me, attent to my every word. I wanted them to remember me as the best teacher they'd ever had. And that kind of worked when I was teaching 7 year olds. I could get away with controlling them by being inauthentic. But it didn't wash with the older kids. I discovered this the hard way when I landed a job at a Prestigious private school in Barcelona i[...]
A question I hear a lot is: Why is being "aligned" so important, when being lost is an important part of the journey? This is a valid question. In this newsletter I will be answering this conundrum. I will also be addressing where I see so many people going wrong, keeping them in a perpetual in a state of LOSTness. And finally I will share specific coaching practices I use with my clients to move them into alignment. WHY IS EVERYONE SO OBSESSED WITH BEING ALIGNED? First of[...]
It's all the rage to focus only on our feminine energy. New Age Spirituality will have us believe this is the "new way of working". That it's "the new paradigm". I disagree. Here's why. MY STORY When I first became spiritual I completely rejected my masculine energy. I would say "I used to be so in my Masculine" like it was a bad thing. I started to judge all the "masculine" traits that made me a high-achiever, such as: 🌟EFFICIENCY. (I enjoyed through my task list[...]
Feeling stuck in a rut sucks. One minute you're fine and the next you have fallen in right on in. It's very difficult to dig your way out. Exhausting, in fact. It's like all the energy goes out of you. You know what you WANT to be doing. You just can't summon the clarity or motivation to actually do it. This leads to feelings of GUILT. Especially in the age of Social Media, where it's so easy to compare yourself to others who appear to be doing it better. Or who appear just to be[...]
I am a survivor of narcissistic abuse. I believe my interest in personal development stems from the fact I have had so many toxic relationships. And I have played my part in them. We all have blind spots and we go on repeating the same patterns again and again until we learn the lesson. For those who know my story, you will have read my previous experience with a Narcissist. If not, you can read about it HERE. During this time I lost a lot of money, weight and self-esteem. This[...]
It was May 2018. I was sitting 21 floors above the beach in my swanky Barcelona office. Midway through interviewing a candidate for a role within our company, my imposter syndrome was rearing its ugly head. It didn't make sense. I had a great job. I lived in a great city. I had a great social life. So why was I feeling so uncomfortable? I'd experienced a similar feeling a few times in my life. But there was something extra toe curling about this particular occasion. T[...]
I have a morning routine because I know the consequences of not having one. I have lived all types of experiences. And I have learnt that having a morning routine sets me up for a happy, productive, peaceful day. But it wasn´t always this way... Former me When I was 24, my morning routine was a bowl of cocoa pops and a cigarette. Back then I was a different person. I was in full on survival mode. When I worked as a primary school teacher, I had zero morning routine. I would be marking[...]
I have always been quirky. My friends got me. But many people didn't. I remember one friend saying people either loved me or hated me. I didn't like that. I wanted everyone to love me. We'll come back to that point later. Many people thought I was weird. But they said it with a smile as if there was something that amused them about my wierdness. It took me 20 years to figure out why that was. As you get older you start to appreciate weirdness as uniqueness and authenticity[...]
There is a dangerous spiritual belief that there are no victims in this world. That we choose our suffering before we incarnate in order to learn the lessons we need to learn. I am not disputing what our souls may or may not decide before we are born. What I AM warning of is the danger of using the shadow side of this belief to stay in situations that ultimately are causing us harm. Read my past article on the dangers of spiritual new age positive thinking here. I used to buy into[...]
