Why online courses kept me stuck…(and what I did instead)

I have been the queen of online courses.

Most of them kept me distracted and out of pocket.

They didn’t really add to my growth, but allowed me to feel like I was moving forwards (albeit superficially).

I was investing just enough on digital programmes to pretend to myself I wanted change.

But not enough to keep myself from making any deep transformation.

Why?

Because deep down I was SCARED.

❌What if I failed?

❌What if I didn’t see results?

❌What if I “wasted” all that money?

My relationship with choosing what to invest in changed when I found my first coach.

I had been searching for a good 6 months.

A few people had offered but there was no one who made me feel that instinctive YES in my heart.

Eventually I came across the man I knew could help me.

He was into the same things as me – plant medicine, music and Peru…

Still, I was a little skeptical.

Why would coaching be any different from my pre-recorded online courses?

And the price did scare me a little.

But something deep down told me to TRUST.

Because:

➡️ this was EXACTLY the thing I had been looking for.

➡️ I would be supported by someone living the LIFESTYLE I WANTED

➡️ It was facilitated by someone who was spiritual, into ceremonies AND able to create financial abundance (…a rare thing!)

I knew this was an opportunity I couldn’t afford to miss.

And thank goddess I didn’t miss it.

MY RESULTS

Because after signing up, I earned back my investment after just 6 weeks by landing my first client.

In that moment, I saw the transformational power of Coaching.

I experienced for myself the power of having someone who has BEEN THERE AND DONE THAT supporting you.

I came face to face with the direct result of taking aligned action towards your dreams.

And as a result, my mindset on “buying” and “receiving support” radically shifted.

Before, I thought I was being sensible by not investing too much in my growth.

Now I understand that being “sensible” was just a protection mechanism.

“Sensible” was designed to keep me small.

“Sensible” was preventing me from making any real change.

In reality, investing in my growth was THE most sensible thing of all.

Because it brought about rapid fire results.

Could I have done it myself?

Yes, but it probably would have taken me 10 years.

Was there a benefit to working with somebody more experienced, who had already walked that path?

Totally. By absorbing everything they had learnt (mistakes and all), I was able to collapse that timeline into 3 months.

Suddenly, I was on a roll.

My motivation, fire and zest for life were back.

And I had accountability from someone who was CHEERING ME ON and SUPPORTING me all the way.

Instead of spending money on jewellery, designer handbags or expensive holidays, I committed to INVESTING IN MY GROWTH.

From the outside, nothing changed.

But on the inside, EVERYTHING had changed.

SO TELL ME…WHAT CHANGED?!

That’s how I went from losing my life savings in a project that didn’t work out (read about that here), with no other work lined up, to:

⭐️Moving to the countryside

⭐️Being surrounded by soul family.

⭐️Recording my first album

⭐️Calling in my partner

⭐️Creating a thriving Coaching business

⭐️My business growing enough to support me moving to Peru

⭐️Earning more working for myself than I ever did in Corporate.

⭐️Our retreats filling out by word of mouth alone

⭐️Healing my autoimmune disease

Am I saying my life is perfect?

❌No.

⚫️I still make mistakes.

⚫️There are days I wake up grumpy.

⚫️Sometimes I owe my friends an apology.

Am I saying that miracles have come into my life that have left me happier, healthier and wealthier than before?

✅Absolutely.

I started to see in real time how investing in self brought results.

And not just financial (although financial was also very clear win).

But emotional, mental, spiritual and physical too.

It all started with me saying YES to investing in myself and YES to receiving support.

It all started with me choosing TRUST over FEAR.

After all, trust and fear are both asking you to believe in something you can’t see.

So which are you going to choose?

If you have been longing for support, but you see yourself putting it off, worrying about WHAT IFs or self-sabotaging, then I get you, because I have also been there.

And my invitation to you would be to TRUST yourself by INVESTING in yourself.

On the other side of that decision, there are treasures waiting for you that you can’t even imagine right now.

MESSAGE FROM THE UNIVERSE

If you’ve been thinking about getting support from someone in particular but have been putting off reaching out, GET IN TOUCH WITH THAT PERSON!

In ten years time you will wish you had started NOW.

What have you got to lose?

If you are looking for support on your journey but don’t know where to get started, DM me the word “PURPOSE” and I’ll send you a free workshop.

Not only will you come away with clarity on what it is you want to do, but you’ll also have motivation and certainty on your next steps to take action on your dreams.

If I can do it, you can do it!

I hope you enjoyed this week’s newsletter and I hope to see you soon.

Love from Abbey

xxx